Unwritten rules of dating for women
“Friends thought I was insane or looking to be murdered,” says a female lawyer.For those who dare, men mostly find “runs girls” (aka sugar babies) looking for rich boyfriends to buy them gifts, or outright prostitutes. “The first time I signed up…I saw three guys I knew who were married,” says Efua Oyofo, who runs the blog Dating While Nigerian.However, many women worry that nuptials are frequented by “Yoruba demons”, stereotypically promiscuous young men from south-west Nigeria.Gay Nigerians, most of whom are in the closet, tend to meet at private parties.Besides, what are you going to do when fellow daters finally meet you and realise you’re not all you made yourself out to be?Playing hard to get may have worked ‘back in the day’, but very few modern daters have time for the chase; there’s a fine line between coy and just not interested, after all.If this is not the case, there’s a three date rule when sleeping together is ‘acceptable’ in the dating world.
Public displays affection when you’re in a relationship are very common in Brazil.LIFE in Lagos can be hard, even for a young, salaried professional.The long working hours, the endless traffic and the pressure to keep up appearances in a city that idolises wealth often leave people exhausted by the weekends, which are packed with lavish weddings and lengthy church services. Tinder, a dating app where users reject or select potential partners by swiping left or right, has not proved as popular in Lagos as it is with time-poor young people elsewhere.If you’re looking for a partner, assert that desire.It can be tempting to keep things polite, and to skirt around the issues of a physical meeting for as long as possible. However, there’s only so much that you can discuss without having had a face-to-face encounter. Many experts recommend a maximum of half a dozen messages, combined, before you take things offline. Don’t be afraid to tell your new partner that your lack of communication is down to a hectic schedule.
“They’re more patient,” says Eve, a software developer who prefers older men.