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So, it went on to post Disneyesque Facebook photos of Sooraj-Barjatya-type-engaged couples meeting on Tinder. Many women celebrated Tinder as it recognised the importance of female sexual agency, as opposed to coating it with a dose of denial, as our nation is famous for doing.
It doesn’t help that many of our Indian movies reaffirm laddish and loutish ideas of love, sex, gender roles and female stereotypes.
“Why would I want to be a 2 am booty call to a guy who goes around calling me ‘easy’. They’d be so ashamed of me." A feminist friend states: “Men are relying on skewed notions of a woman being game on the basis of a profile picture. It’s no wonder then that around 60-70 percent of women on Tinder explicitly state in their profile that they’re not looking for a hookup. Whether casual sex empowers or estranges a woman depends from where you’re looking.
We can’t give them that kind of power.” Another female friend — making a staunch case against hookups — adds. “Would a man be as open to casual sex on Tinder if someone told him that his mother or sister was on Tinder? The truth — as my friend succinctly pointed out — is that if a woman is willing, she doesn’t need Tinder to hookup. They’re flying planes, becoming presidents, hosting Oscars, but there’s still something about a woman’s sexuality that makes society fearful. But women are also always reminded of the caveats associated with acting like a sexual being. There are, of course, women who are exercising their right to sexual liberation without guilt or restraint, as it should’ve always been.
“Yes, she is on Tinder,”…“Haha, he does not get any likes,”… this one’s girlfriend is on Tinder and he has swiped her left.” Denials flow thick and fast around the table and mock fights erupt amid a lot of giggles and bantering.
This circle of friends at an upmarket nightclub in the heart of IT city, Bengaluru, is surely not one of a kind.
It brought lotion, tissues and the left hand back in vogue. It debunked the double standard that by having sex, men get something but women give up something. In fact, they’re so easily excited by casual sex, or even a whiff of it, that they flaunt it as a badge of honour.