Friends dating transition
Not only were we good friends, but our families were also extremely close and had been for years.
When we broke up nine months later, all the usual post-breakup awkwardness and bitterness were multiplied tenfold by the fact that we were forced to hang out whenever our families got together, which was often.
We don’t just like each other, we also like A LOT of the same stuff.
And we introduce each other to new things all the time.
But it quickly felt natural and right after all that talking and sharing.
Kelly: I believe we handled the evolution of our relationship very consciously.
Ashley: Take your time with the feeling, and prepare yourself to be extremely vulnerable. Try to know if you can live with that, and if you can’t, be honest about it. He was always the standard against which I measured other men, and we dated a bit when we were younger. I was struck by this visceral sensation, like ‘This is The Point.
Navigating this transition, however, is far from obvious.Ashley: We met in a college class and slowly became friends.He made me laugh a lot, but I was very suspicious of him. And he was a white boy with a slight country accent who drove a pick-up truck.Nothing felt weird to me, but the transitions didn’t just happen on their own.At each new point, we always had a conversation to find out where we were and how we felt.
I think that viewing relationships as an inevitable thing that happens between two people who are attracted to each other takes away from the emotional vulnerability, and work, that goes into building strong commitments.