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They’ve developed and matured as we all do; driven by survival and attachment, the same instincts they came into the world with, the same instincts that gave them a fighting chance at survival.However, the other component necessary for reaching potential, the social environment, was not favorable.
He only hopes that she is able to see the pull of the alignment as the cause of the crash and not something in the environment which will take all the blame, not him, and hopefully not the children.
This outburst or avoidance seeks to respond in a way that she wished she could have responded long ago when she was being victimized.
This outburst does not seek to solve the problem of alignment but seeks to destroy the cause of that familiar pain that wells up inside.
He waits and waits in anxious anticipation, trying to prevent every previous trigger from happening again.
Trying to be perfect without losing his sense of self and responsibility, without losing touch with reality, this is what it means to “walk on eggshells.”Attaching oneself to a person who has suffered abandonment and complex trauma may seem like a fruitless endeavor.
People in general will seek what is familiar even unto death.