Dating my friend
Hasha says that the two keys to maintaining your friendship are communication and boundaries.“Remember that if you truly care for your friend, their friendship is valuable, even as romantic relationships come and go,” she says.But it’s not okay to necessarily on some of those feelings.When people are overwhelmed with feelings like anger, hurt, or jealousy, it can be tempting to lash out. Tasha Rube is a Licensed Master Social Worker in Missouri.She received her MSW from the University of Missouri in 2014.As an alternative, try saying something like: “I felt hurt when I saw the news of you and [name of person] dating, because I had communicated my feelings about that person to you.” Hasha also suggests sharing what you would have liked to see happen instead, such as: “It would have been helpful for me if you had talked to me about it first, to give me time to process before you guys started openly dating.”4.If for some reason your friend know that you liked this person, you’ll probably need to have a different kind of conversation — but it’s still super-important to communicate.
I'm happy that you two seem to have found happiness together, but please understand it may take some time for me to feel comfortable with it.”5.
Picture this: You’ve told your best friend all about the person who has caught your eye at school.
In fact, you’ve poured over details of your conversations, analyzed text messages together, and even strategized ways to confess your feelings (in the most chill way possible, of course). Your BFF starts dating that person that Unfortunately, it’s a situation that’s rather common, but that doesn’t make it hurt any less.
But Hasha urges everyone to keep in mind that talking and communicating is much more effective than doing something you might regret.
“Don't go key your friend's car or spread malicious rumors about them,” she advises while letting us know that “it is normal to experience a full range of complex emotions.”3.
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