Dating a longtime friend
Flirtationships can be fun and silly, but they can also get awkward really fast (and potentially mean bad news for having a real relationship with that guy). This guide will give you the rules to live (and flirt) by. “A flirtationship is that fun and flirty in-between place of being just friends and without claiming that you’re in a relationship,” Spira says.
No, this isn’t a Friday night date with that cutie from class. We’ve all had those fun, flirty first date feelings: those butterflies-in-your-stomach, goose-bumpy feelings. I’m talking about flirtationships–that tricky in-between stage when you regularly flirt with a guy friend but for one reason or another, you do nothing more than that.
“The thing with friends is they’re always there for you.
It’s sort of like having a boyfriend, but without having to worry about him judging you.” And as Tammy, a student at Boston College says, a “no strings attached” flirtationship can be the best of both worlds in the dating scene. “What’s great about a flirtationship is that you can still date around with whoever you want without the drama of being ‘attached’ to someone or people calling you a cheater.” A flirtationship, much like a friends with benefits situation, means having all the benefits of a relationship without the obligations.
You can save your weekend nights for clubbing with the girls and splurge on those to-die-for heels you just hadto have. Like any gamble, in a flirtationship, you run the risk of ruining the friendship.
If it all falls apart, not only do you lose the chance of that perfect boyfriend, you lose the chance of keeping him as a friend.
Emma from Mount Holyoke College found herself in this situation.
Rachel from New York University says that her flirtationship with a longtime guy friend Hunter means having someone to depend on.
“Hunter is always someone I can rely on to listen to me when I need to talk out something,” she says.