Dating a divorced male mutually validating
Before throwing yourself into a relationship with a newly divorced man, make sure that you aren't his rebound.
Relationships that start as a rebound after divorce may end in failure more easily than those that don't, according to psychiatrist Mark Banschick on on the Psychology Today website.
Give him the time that he needs to feel ready to date again.
"Lots of guys have never had experience as the primary caregiver, and they don't know what to do and have trouble adapting," Buser says.
"But divorce gives them an opportunity, when they are with their kids, to be a full-time parent for the first time.
"That should be the most important thing from the man's point of view: His child wants him and his child needs him," Finley says.
"Maintaining the relationship is important for your child's developmental outcome: social, emotional, and educational." Finley warns against becoming what he calls a "Disneyland dad," who acts as if his role is to show up on weekends and show the kids a good time.